"The Christianity of history is not Protestantism. If ever there were a safe truth it is this, and Protestantism has ever felt it so; to be deep in history is to cease to be a Protestant." (-John Henry Newman, An Essay on the Development of Christian Doctrine).

"Where the bishop is, there let the people gather; just as where ever Jesus Christ is, there is the Catholic Church". -St. Ignatius of Antioch (ca 110 AD)a martyr later thrown to the lions, wrote to a church in Asia Minor. Antioch was also where the term "Christian" was first used.

“But if I should be delayed, you should know how to behave in the household of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and foundation of truth.” 1 Timothy 3:15

"This is the sole Church of Christ, which in the Creed we profess to be one, holy, catholic and apostolic." -CCC 811

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Lorraine Murray's Conversion Story

By Lorraine Murray

Lorraine is a Catholic revert and ex-feminist who returned to the faith of her childhood after 25 years an atheist.

I Was a Teenage Feminist: My Journey Back to Mother Church

I was in the newsstand of the Miami bus terminal, my saddle oxfords a bit scuffed and my

uniform crumpled after a steamy day of classes, when I spotted something that utterly horrified me.

It was not an X-rated book or magazine, but something much worse, "Why I Am Not a Christian" by Bertrand Russell.

I didn't dare pick it up for fear that it might burst into flames. You see, I had been raised in a Catholic, Italian-American family that traced its faith back to the old country for generations back. To me nearly the whole world was Catholic, and although I had heard about Protestants – the nuns had told us about the Reformation, although they preferred the term "Revolution" – I had never encountered someone who would brag about rejecting Christ.


Little did I know that in a few years I would not only reject Christ and His Church, but all the teachings of my childhood, becoming, for over 25 years, a radical feminist and ardent atheist.

I was a senior at Immaculata Academy when I shyly told one of the sisters about my plan for the future. I would go to the University of Florida in Gainesville, where I would major in English and put into motion my lifelong dream of becoming a writer.

Sister's expression darkened and she delivered a line that would come back to haunt me many years later: "If you go to a secular college, you'll lose your faith."

At first this prediction seemed completely absurd, but it wasn't long before it began gaining the momentum of truth. It seemed that every class I took during my freshman and sophomore years in college was headed by atheists who were eager to evangelize their beliefs.

My psychology professors puffed on pipes while proclaiming that heaven and angels were figments of the imagination. My philosophy teachers found belief in God rather quaint, as it was, they said, completely antithetical to reason, which they held supreme.

The year was 1964 when I arrived on campus, a delicate, churchgoing virgin, but two years later, I was a full-fledged hippie carrying an Army gasbag as a purse and wearing skirts so short they doubled as blouses. It wasn't long before Sunday Mass became a quaint relic from my childhood, along with my teddy bears and jump rope.

As the hippie bandwagon stormed through campus, I eagerly embraced the empty dogma of the "God is dead" movement. I happily dismissed all the things my parents held dear, including virginity before marriage and abstinence from drugs.

By graduation, I had also latched onto feminism, which proclaimed that women should be able to pursue their dreams –as long as they didn't involve marriage and motherhood. In graduate school, my dissertation presented androgyny as the solution to the inequities between men and women. And this wondrous state of being would be achieved, I said, once parents could be convinced to raise boys and girls in identical ways.

Now I look back and have to chuckle because obviously the woman who wrote that had never witnessed a little boy turning a doll into a gun, or a little girl putting lipstick on her teddy bear.

In my personal life, I was driven by the notion that there was something called "free love," and that women could level the playing field with men if they acted just like men when it came to sex.

This notion, of course, played right into the hands of some of the less honorable men, but feminists like me didn't see it. Now it seems obvious that many of the guys I dated were happy to oblige women who were eager to sample sex without commitment.

I ran from one boyfriend to the next, trying to convince myself that happiness was just around the corner. As my relationships began crashing and burning, I was too blind to see the truth. Although I was trying to be the poster child for the freewheeling lessons of the sixties, in my heart I was still the little girl who had gone to Catholic school --and who yearned for something quite traditional and very unhip, which was a man to cherish her, and to marry her.

After getting my doctorate in philosophy, I moved to Atlanta and became a college instructor, where I taught courses in English and philosophy. In the latter courses, I outlined traditional arguments for and against God's existence --and although professors ideally are supposed to remain neutral in such discussions, I think my students figured out where I stood.

It wasn't that I was trying to mislead them; it was just that I didn't see any compelling reason to believe in God. Despite my childhood upbringing in Catholic schools, no one had prepared me with a proper arsenal of arguments to defend my beliefs. And so I came to see the universe through the eyes of dejected, bleak-hearted existentialists like Sartre who believed in nothing transcendent and actually stated that hell was "other people."

Faced with an unwanted pregnancy, I didn't take long to decide what to do. After all, I had thoroughly delved into the issue of abortion in the classroom, and it seemed pretty clear that a woman's rights always trump those of the child.

And so off to the clinic I went, where I figured the "procedure," as I called it, would be as simple and straightforward as having a tooth removed, since that was what all the feminist tomes suggested.

In fact, the abortion turned out to be one of the most horrendous moments of my life, both physically and emotionally, and something that I would re-live and regret for many years to come. That terrible event became the first chink in my feminist armor, forcing me to wonder if everything that I had held dear about feminism was really true.

In my thirties, I finally did settle down with a very nice, kind and loving man, whom I met when I was teaching at Georgia Tech. He had been raised Christian, but didn't have any strong inclinations in that direction, and liked to dabble in a bit of Eastern thought now and again. As for me, I continued on my atheist path, although it was becoming increasingly harder to keep my foothold.

Peculiar things kept happening. For example, when we chose a place for our wedding, I was the one who suggested a Methodist church near my apartment. I said it was because the sanctuary was pretty, but it was strange indeed for an atheist to pronounce her vows in a decidedly Christian setting complete with crosses, stained glass and a pastor who actually believed in what the Bible taught.

When I began writing as a freelancer for a local newspaper, the topics I chose to explore had to do with – of all things – religion! And not just any religion either: It seems I was drawn to write about cloistered nuns; Christian women in the clergy; and childhood memories of Catholic school.

Still, I didn't get the message, which was that "someone" was quietly calling me back. Oddly enough, it took two big lumbering sea creatures to really drive the point home.

During one of our boating trips on a small island in the Gulf of Mexico, my husband and I had a very startling encounter. We were sitting there enjoying the glassy stretch of sea when suddenly two gigantic, whiskery faces rose from the deep and peered into the boat. At first we couldn't find the word to name what we saw, but moments later we yelled, "Manatees!"

And then, for some reason, the self-proclaimed atheist in the boat added with awe, "Oh, it was like looking into the face of God."

If those were the gentle nudges, God finally gave me quite a large push. This happened when my husband returned home from a business trip and announced, completely out of the blue, "I stopped in at St. Patrick's Cathedral and lit votive candles for your folks and my dad."

HUH? This was a man who had never been in a Catholic church before, and certainly knew little about the tradition of praying for the dead. At that moment, I was seized with the chilling realization that I had never prayed for my parents, who had died years before.

After that, things progressed fairly quickly. My husband and I discovered that we'd been living less than a mile from a Catholic church. We went to Mass and decided that we liked the pastor and the prayers. Little by little, as I began re-reading the Scriptures, I had the feeling that Christ was walking out of the pages and taking possession of my heart.

One bleak, wintry night, I went to Confession and unburdened my soul of the horrible black sin that had kept me in chains for years. I wept as I told the priest about the abortion. A man of great mercy, he told me about Christ's words on the cross: "Forgive them for they know not what they do." He assured me that Christ would forgive me too.

Before long, I became a steady churchgoer--and my husband eventually was received into the Church—but I still remained a classic cafeteria- style Catholic. Despite my own terrible regret over abortion, I still clung to the belief that women had a right to make that choice. I also refused to stop using contraception, and disagreed with the Church on issues like homosexuality and a female priesthood.

It wasn't until a cancer diagnosis in the year 2000 that I had a deeper conversion. It was then that I sought instruction from a priest who teaches religion at one of the local Catholic high schools. Father Richard Lopez was the one I went to in tears when I thought I was going to die. He helped me through the initial stages of grieving that so often accompany tragedy.

We met weekly at first, and then monthly and I began asking plenty of questions: about abortion, about contraception, about homosexuality, and why the Church taught what she did. Father Lopez answered all the questions, giving me background materials to read, and finally providing the foundation I needed to abandon my cafeteria-style approach to the faith.

My husband and I will soon celebrate 29 years of wedded bliss. Although we were not blessed with children, we have been graced in many other ways, especially in our faith. And when I reflect on my journey, I believe that God called me back to the Church with the help of my parents and with the prayers of that little soul who was never born but will never be forgotten.

Lorraine is a writer living in Decatur, Georgia, where she works mornings in the theology library at Emory University. She is the author of seven books most recently a biography of Flannery O'Connor called "The Abbess of Andalusia" and a mystery, "Death of a Liturgist." When she is not writing, Lorraine likes to bake bread, take long walks with her husband and chase the squirrels out of the garden.

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